Proverbs 31: Warnings and Advice for Godly Men

As promised, I give you Proverbs 31: Man version. Of all thirty-one, I picked out eight verses that guys need to reflect on.

We’re starting off with verse 3:

‘Do not spend your strength on women, your vigour on those who ruin kings.’

In some versions, strength is replaced by wealth or energy and vigour by efforts. In all versions, the outcome means the same. Do not let the people of this world corrupt you, and stay faithful to God, living a life that would please Him.

A deeper meaning to this verse reveals obsession, and given that the book was likely written for Solomon (despite the name Lemuel), it indeed runs in the family. 2 Samuel 11 tells the story of how David’s lust for Bathsheba turned into an obsession and ultimately led to the death of an innocent man. David’s judgement was clouded by his emotions. Still, obsession has the power to destroy, and this verse may not explain the full extent of the destruction that comes with placing anyone before God, but it serves as a warning to all.

Guys, do not let your judgement and, ultimately, your faith become clouded by your emotions. Do not let your feelings deceive you; your heart cannot always be trusted. Put God first in all things, and let no one lead you astray.

‘It is not for kings, Lemuel – it is not for kings to drink wine, not for rulers to crave beer.’

Verse 4 gives another warning, this time about the dangers of alcohol, intoxication, and addiction.

It is common knowledge that alcohol brings more consequences than benefits, and the benefits are only temporary. Alcohol affects how we function, and not in a good way. This verse tells us that for leaders or anyone with choices to make, it is wiser to step away from alcohol and opt for the non-alcoholic stuff.

Alcohol is not inherently wrong; the issue is drunkenness and how our emotions can become clouded. Like David’s story, intoxication can cause damage beyond repair, and sometimes it’s better not to tempt fate by having a little. I know from experience that once it’s in your system, there’s no going back, and the benefits aren’t worth the consequences.

Guys, if you don’t feel convicted about drinking, that’s fine, but please drink responsibly and in moderation.

Now for verses 8 and 9.

‘Speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves, for the right of all who are destitute. Speak up and judge fairly; defend the rights of the poor and needy.’

Follow the example Jesus set, and be generous and kind to all. But most importantly, stand up for good and just causes and protect the poor and innocent. Do not sit back and watch needy people suffer needlessly when you can help.

Guys, if you have an opportunity to right a wrong or help someone in need, take it. The world always needs some kindness and generosity. Put your faith into action.

‘Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.’

Verses 11 and 12 are relevant for the husbands and boyfriends. Trust in your wife or girlfriend. Do not doubt her commitment to you; do not think of her as a burden or annoyance. Treat her with respect and trust in the advice that she gives to you. She is a blessing, a gift from God, and you should treat her as such.

‘Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.’

As verses 11 and 12 mention, your wife (or girlfriend) will be a blessing. Verse 23 tells us that you will be honoured and respected because of her. Proverbs 18:22 affirms this saying: ‘He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favour from the Lord.’

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‘Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: “Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all”.’

Verses 28 and 29 are also relevant to the husbands and boyfriends of the world. Although, I’m sure any woman would be glad to hear it. Give her encouragement in her work, and reward her for her efforts and successes. Give her a compliment occasionally, and spread some joy, for you never know the negative thoughts that could be hidden from you. Sometimes, a good thing is enough to chase away that dark cloud and bring in the sunshine.

Guys, I hope you have found this post useful. Well, I actually hope it is entirely unnecessary, and you live your life according to God’s Word. But if it is helpful, then I am glad. Until next time…